Manipulative people are found everywhere……If you say I want a manipulative person…..you will get 2 because these people are in stock all the time.
It could be anyone, friends, relatives or your boyfriend or girlfriend.
“As I have said a thousand times, no manipulation can put stocks down and keep them down.”
– Edwin Lefevre
Normally people suggest something to you time and time again for your benefit, but when one person is used to for the benefit of the other, that’s where manipulation comes in.
A manipulator deliberately forces the person to work on his agenda or the agenda that is going to benefit the manipulator.
Now the question arises…..How will I identify that he or she is a manipulator??
The answer is that you just need to recognize these qualities that I am going to mention below in a person for him/her to be a manipulator: –
1.) They will often say, they are unloved, victimized etc. in an effort to gain your sympathy and to get you to do things for them.
2.) Their kindness is conditional, as they might be sweet and kind to you if you do certain things well enough, but all heck breaks loose if you dare do it wrong or question them.
3.) They make you feel inadequate or judged. No matter what you do, this person can always find something wrong.
4.) They know how to detect your weaknesses, and use them against you.
5.) They convince you to give up something in order to serve their self-centered interests.
6.) Once a manipulator succeeds in taking advantage of you, they will likely repeat the exploitation until you put a stop to it.
These are some characteristics of a manipulator…..
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Now if you find a manipulator from above-mentioned characteristics, how to deal with them??
1.) SAY ‘NO’
Some people have in themselves that they can’t say ‘no’ to anyone including me …..And these people get victimized all the time for that. If a person doesn’t say no to anything…..it will be a big advantage for the manipulator to do his work.
That’s why I recommend that everyone should learn to say no…..because sometimes a NO will help you later.
Most manipulators will start by asking small favors that you cannot say NO to…..and will keep you in a trap all the time.
This disadvantage can ruin person’s life …..By doing things that don’t benefit you. By not saying ‘no’, you are effectively giving them the permission to exploit you.
2.) STAY AWAY
If you are in a trap of a manipulator, you will not be able to accomplish anything in life. A manipulator will always trap you and hinder your success as their priority is most often to keep you under control.
That’s why stay away from these people …..If you have already identified one while reading this post……just stay away from them….because they are the roadblock to your rich life.
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I know it’s quite difficult to actually stay away from a person…..because he will try to interfere every now and then. But try to keep a distance from these people.
3.) IGNORE THEM
As I have said it above as well, the manipulator will try to talk to you and interfere in your life. You just need to ignore them. Now it’s time to think about your benefits…..and the biggest benefit that you can get is to avoid that manipulator.
The biggest mistake anyone makes when dealing with a manipulative person is trying to change or correct them. By attempting to do so, you sink deeper into their trap. Eventually, they will use confusion and frustration, resulting from your effort to correct them, to draw into your conflict. So that they can get you emotional and find out the things that trigger you, which will they use to influence you later on.
The best strategy is simply to delete them from your life.
4.) HAVE A SENSE OF PURPOSE
Normally people who are victimized by these manipulators are not thinking ahead….they don’t know the purpose of their life. Most of them don’t have any concrete vision of life and just going through daily life as if operated by an autopilot.
Always try to vision the big picture, where you want to be in life next 10 years or so on and what role these manipulative people will have in your life then.
When you know for what purpose are you going……manipulators can’t influence you.
5.) STOP FEELING GUILTY AND SELF-DOUBT
Two of the strong powerful weapons a manipulator use on you are guilt and doubt. They will always make sure to make you guilty of your past failures and even small mistakes. Additionally, they will plant self-doubt in your mind, that you will start questioning your own abilities and worth.
And this is how they gain power over you.
So, the best thing to do here is to stop feeling guilty and to stop doubting yourself.
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Manipulators are like bacteria to your body that you need to avoid……If this article helps you to identify the manipulator and the cure to remove it…..Share it as much as you can with your friends, family and others.
At last, I just want to say BEWARE OF MANIPULATORS!!
THANKS FOR READING !!